I was raped a year ago and since I've been suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder. I have trouble falling asleep at night and I wake up in the middle of the night very upset and scared. I'm constantly tired from lack of sleep which is caused by horrible nightmares. I have vivid images in my head of it happening that I cant really control. And some words will set me off such as rape or fiji (the men were from there) and I have an intense fear of brown men unless I know them well.
Its slowly getting better but its been over a year now and its still horrible, I try to force myself to move on by telling myself they are winning if I let it bother me, but thats only skin deep. I havent told any family memebers about it and I'm only 17 so without them knowing professional help is out of the question. I also recently started going out with a guy and sometimes little things he does scare me and I cant tell him that without explaining why.
I sometimes have panic attacks and..........
How to deal with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder?
okay well, i'm 20 and this also happened to me? i'm in the same exact boat as you. umm, what kind of things trigger you. touching? if it is that's normal. sometimes i don't like it when friends touch me.
i've read stuff and it says you never really get over it. i was also sexually abused when i was younger and i'm not over it. i still get set off and feel unsafe and get dreams but with time you get over some things. they're just not as strong. i think it will be like that...i hope so
but from expereince it will take years and therapy. i'm starting treatment now. maybe you can tell your parent's. MAYBE. my parents don't know because i know them they won't be supportive. maybe your parents are different? if you feel like they will be supportive do it. if not, then don't. it can be pretty damaging when they're like that. you should tell close friends but be careful some friends might not take it well. some of my friends, who i don't talk to anymore, didn't. but other friends will. they are your real friends. how long have you and your boyfriend been together? you could tell him. if he really cares for you he'll stand by you.
as for treatment you can look online. i'm not sure but can't you talk to a therapist. you can try to find a guardian or something. tell a close teacher? and aunt? older cousin? sibling? yes, i remember i signed a paper needing the sig of my guardian if i wasn't old enough.
don't try to take it all away with getting high. it doesn't help, i haven't done that but like all things like that it just pushes it away but it's still there and as heavy as it always was. you need to deal with it eventually when you are ready.
do what you want. but try to deal with it. it NEEDS to be dealt with
when you have panic attacks try to breathe. stay away from the triggers as soon as you can. for a while i guess.
please, just talk to someone you trust. good luck! God Bless...
Reply:you are dealing with a lot of depression... If you go and find a therapist uhh nvm LOL
Maybe you should just trust in your mind and soul and try to forget... go find something that will make you forget
Reply:you need to talk to your parents and tell them so you can get some professional help.
Reply:Oh my gosh girl! I'm so sorry that happened. You really should have went to the police about that. I dont know if its too late or not. Im no specialist but i must say don't try self medication with those illegal drugs. Trust me that will just make your life a whole lot worse. I know this is not what you want to hear but i would say that you should tell someone you are really close to and that you can trust. Also you should definitely seek professional help. ptsd is a serious psychological disorder. I know it will take lots of courage to do all this but im pretty sure nothing else will help. Good luck and the best of wishes.
Reply:Find a real Psychiatrist and they may provide counseling in the direction to go.
Reply:YOU MUST FIND SOMEONE TO TALK TOO,PLEASE DON'T KEEP THIS TO YOUSELF,THE WOUND CAN GET DEEPER AND DEEPER,AS ACHILD SOMETHING HAPPENED TO ME AND I SUFFER FROM THE SAME AND OTHER MENTAL ISSUES BUT I AM ON MEDS IF YOU CAN FIND A MENTAL HEALTH PERSON TO TALK TO,FOR THEY MUST KEEP THIS PRIVATE AND TELL NO ONE OR MAYBE A TEEN HOTLINE BUT TALK TO SOMEONE SOON.
Reply:It's not at all strange that you're still upset, scared and confused a year later! What you went through is very tranmatic! and it wasn't your fault!!!
you need to talk about this to someone. If you can't tell your parents, talk to a relative, the school counselor, or even look for an online support group. But you should really tell your parents. Keeping this in isn't good for your health.
Reply:Perhaps if you tell them you are having issues with depression and would like to seek counseling? You needn't tell them about your experience if you really don't want to-- and what is between you and your therapist will stay there. Maybe you can talk to a counselor at school about a next step. I think you need to work this through. This kind of emotional stress is serious and dealing with it now is going to help you live the rest of your life in peace. Be good to yourself instead of putting more demands on yourself for example- 'they are winning if I let it bother me'. There is no longer a struggle with 'them' . Your struggle now is with dealing with these feelings, be kind to yourself! Something of this magnitude bothers you because it bothers you- not cause you are 'letting' it. Consider finding a way to get treatment.- that's the best way to get the right tools to get past this is an effective, healthy way.
Reply:I am a middle aged woman and I had a similar thing happen to me when I was young. I also tried to self-medicate with drugs. It didn't really help, it just made my life duller.
A few years ago another tramatic situation happened to me that was totally unrelated to my childhood experience. It triggered something in me. I've been dealing with PTSD ever since.
I have a great therapist and psychiatrist now and things have gotten better.
I am so sorry that you are going through what I can only equate to a horrible nightmare.
Please tell your parents, they CAN handle it. The sooner you get help the better.
I would hate to see you still suffering years from now.
Reply:g please do not medicate yourself . Please self medication is not a good thing. When help is needed please seek professional help . I know that this is hard to do because it costs money to get help the system sucks.
Reply:Therapy and medication combined have both worked best for me. I hope you can find a good therapist and Psychiatrists very soon. Marijuana believe it or not will only cause more anxiety when trying to withdraw so it can be worse to use in the long run. I hope you are feeling better soon and I am very sorry you have gone through all this~
Reply:go to a counsler i cant belaive how young u r and u r using drugs u need real help girl.
Saturday, April 24, 2010
Do i have an eating disorder?
I know that i am not skin and bones but i am starting to wonder. Everything i eat i am counting calories. When i am home alone i only eat about 400 calories aday and if that. I measure out what i eat and what i do eat i feel gulity. I hate my body and i always see flaws with it. When people are around i try to eat normally but the guilt that comes over me is terrible. I try not to show it but my mind is constantly thinking about food and how to perfect my body. I am 5'9 and weigh 135. I want to be down to 110. Being this big makes me freak out. Do you think i have an eating disorder?
Do i have an eating disorder?
Yes, you most certainly do. Perhaps it is not at an advanced stage yet -- you haven't lost a ton of weight -- but you are on the road.
Seek help soon, my friend.
Reply:no ,you do not have an eating disorder, you have a mental illness.
Reply:I do think it is a big possibility you have a eating disorder. You need to learn how to love your body the way it is. Food is a great part of life and something you should enjoy. You should call up a therapist or someone that can help you get through this. Best of luck to you!
Reply:no but u seem a little obsessed. be careful
Reply:No, its a disease!
Reply:well you have something going on that you need to get help with, whether its body image, which could lead to a serious eating disorder. So I think you need to talk to someone about this, its not necessarily a eating disorder now, but if you don't get help, it could definatly end up being one.
Reply:yes i do. 400 calories! ur suppose to take up to at least 1800 and sometime 2000 a day. ur weight if perfect! actally i think ur under weight. if u are uncomtuble with ur body and think ur flabby....work out in the gym and go on a body builder diet.....muscle gets all the gyms....just dont gain to much or youll scare them away....trust me ur probly rly skinny...SO DONT WORRY!!!!!!
Reply:YES I DO!!!!!!! YOU DO NOT NEED TO EAT SO FEW CALORIES PER DAY IN ORDER TO LOOSE WEIGHT . THIS IS SOOOOOOOO UNHEALTHY FOR YOU . YOU ARE PUTTING YOUR OWN HEALTH AT RISK FOR OTHER SERIOUS PROBLEMS
Reply:yes you have anorexia nervosia. i used to have it too. get help and quick before you do more damage to yourself. 400 calories is nowere near what you should be eating. your body burns about 1200 even if all you did was stay in bed all day. eat!
Reply:Of course not! You are perfectly fine. If you want to achieve this target weight, I suggest cutting your calories even further! =D
Also, have you ever been on a pro-ed website? Link below, I hope it will inspire you to continue losing weight!
Reply:OH Yea, you should get help before you become malnourished. Your muscle will waste away without nourishment, and dont forget, your heart is a muscle. 400 cal. a day is not enough to sustain life. GET HELP before you do permanent damage.
Reply:You should weigh that much because your tall. You should NOT weigh 110. Girls who are 5'4 or 5'5 should weigh 110. I'm 5'7 and weigh 120 and I'm NOT fat at all. so don't worry about it its your height and if you got to 110 you'd look gross and lose your *** and boobs
Reply:i wanna get down to 105....
Reply:i am almost the same height and weight i tried the same thing in the the end none of that works just try not to count calories its going to kill your mind
Reply:Seeing that you are that tall, your wieght is fine. At certains hieghts you need to be at least a certain wieght. Your wieght and hieght is fine. But if you think you are fat, I would probably say do excercise eat as healthy as you can. Junk food tends to make people overwieght. My friend told me that she heard that you can lose wieght by takeing how much you wiegh and add a zero at the end and that is how much calories you eat a day. since you are 135 then you would eat 1350 calories a day. I don't think that you are fat. if you have a belly that sticks out it could be water. I do know that healthy food is often very good to help stay skinny. I wouldn't take diet pills becuz dieat pills are said to make you so you can never have kids.
Reply:It sounds like you most definitely DO have a problem! I am 5'7" and at one time weighed just 130 and was pure skin and bones, so I can only imagine how frail and sickly you look! Being that thin is NOT healthy! You know you have a problem, now get help before you start having problems with major organs! Some day you'll be glad you got help, right now it sounds like you're afraid to get help because your afraid they'll take your power away. The power that will help you starve yourself! Seek help NOW!
Do i have an eating disorder?
Yes, you most certainly do. Perhaps it is not at an advanced stage yet -- you haven't lost a ton of weight -- but you are on the road.
Seek help soon, my friend.
Reply:no ,you do not have an eating disorder, you have a mental illness.
Reply:I do think it is a big possibility you have a eating disorder. You need to learn how to love your body the way it is. Food is a great part of life and something you should enjoy. You should call up a therapist or someone that can help you get through this. Best of luck to you!
Reply:no but u seem a little obsessed. be careful
Reply:No, its a disease!
Reply:well you have something going on that you need to get help with, whether its body image, which could lead to a serious eating disorder. So I think you need to talk to someone about this, its not necessarily a eating disorder now, but if you don't get help, it could definatly end up being one.
Reply:yes i do. 400 calories! ur suppose to take up to at least 1800 and sometime 2000 a day. ur weight if perfect! actally i think ur under weight. if u are uncomtuble with ur body and think ur flabby....work out in the gym and go on a body builder diet.....muscle gets all the gyms....just dont gain to much or youll scare them away....trust me ur probly rly skinny...SO DONT WORRY!!!!!!
Reply:YES I DO!!!!!!! YOU DO NOT NEED TO EAT SO FEW CALORIES PER DAY IN ORDER TO LOOSE WEIGHT . THIS IS SOOOOOOOO UNHEALTHY FOR YOU . YOU ARE PUTTING YOUR OWN HEALTH AT RISK FOR OTHER SERIOUS PROBLEMS
Reply:yes you have anorexia nervosia. i used to have it too. get help and quick before you do more damage to yourself. 400 calories is nowere near what you should be eating. your body burns about 1200 even if all you did was stay in bed all day. eat!
Reply:Of course not! You are perfectly fine. If you want to achieve this target weight, I suggest cutting your calories even further! =D
Also, have you ever been on a pro-ed website? Link below, I hope it will inspire you to continue losing weight!
Reply:OH Yea, you should get help before you become malnourished. Your muscle will waste away without nourishment, and dont forget, your heart is a muscle. 400 cal. a day is not enough to sustain life. GET HELP before you do permanent damage.
Reply:You should weigh that much because your tall. You should NOT weigh 110. Girls who are 5'4 or 5'5 should weigh 110. I'm 5'7 and weigh 120 and I'm NOT fat at all. so don't worry about it its your height and if you got to 110 you'd look gross and lose your *** and boobs
Reply:i wanna get down to 105....
Reply:i am almost the same height and weight i tried the same thing in the the end none of that works just try not to count calories its going to kill your mind
Reply:Seeing that you are that tall, your wieght is fine. At certains hieghts you need to be at least a certain wieght. Your wieght and hieght is fine. But if you think you are fat, I would probably say do excercise eat as healthy as you can. Junk food tends to make people overwieght. My friend told me that she heard that you can lose wieght by takeing how much you wiegh and add a zero at the end and that is how much calories you eat a day. since you are 135 then you would eat 1350 calories a day. I don't think that you are fat. if you have a belly that sticks out it could be water. I do know that healthy food is often very good to help stay skinny. I wouldn't take diet pills becuz dieat pills are said to make you so you can never have kids.
Reply:It sounds like you most definitely DO have a problem! I am 5'7" and at one time weighed just 130 and was pure skin and bones, so I can only imagine how frail and sickly you look! Being that thin is NOT healthy! You know you have a problem, now get help before you start having problems with major organs! Some day you'll be glad you got help, right now it sounds like you're afraid to get help because your afraid they'll take your power away. The power that will help you starve yourself! Seek help NOW!
My friend has an eating disorder?
my friend is anerexic and im rlly worried about her.the other day she only ate 3 chips ALL DAY and today she only ate 2 small cookies.her mom is even sending her to a shrink.but she wont even admit that she has an eating disorder.she is 5 ft 4 tall and she is rlly into sports and she used to be muscular but now idk.over the summer she was wearing a bikini and i could see her ribs through her skin.she is scaring me. today we walked to have lunch and her mom asked me to make sure she ate something and if she wouldnt to force her to eat a carrot or sumthin and she wouldnt eat ANYTHING and i felt bad cause her mom relied on me and i failed.then for dinner we had ravioli.she didnt eat any of it obviously.she had bball practice afterbut her mom wouldnt let her go because she wouldnt eat any ravioli.she was crying and i felt rlly bad. but there was nothing i could do.she told me that she lost 16 lbs and shes PROUD OF IT! her goal is 95 lbs.when she was healthy, she was 105 lbs and thin.HELP!
My friend has an eating disorder?
it is so sad how someone can just lose themselves! she needs help and she also needs food, when your 5 ft 4 you should NOT be aiming for 95lbs, waaaaaayyyyy too light! there is NOTHING to be proud of about being under weight, too many people have lost their life's that way! poor thing, she really NEEDS to go to therapy or something, i am glad that her mother is concerned about her and she is doing the right thing, it is not your fault if she refuses to eat, she needs support and help to realize what is going on.
good luck and god bless!♥
Reply:I feel bad for your friend but her mom has to send her away to one of those clinic that they have for people with eating disorders.
Reply:I think she would benefit from some inpatient help too if her therapist isn't helping her. You sound like a good friend but she isn't really opening up about things.
This center has some good info and a friend of mine got help here for bulimia:
http://www.renfrewcenter.com/
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Reply:U're obviously a really good friend and very concerned. I think ur friends mother needs to speak to the local GP and get information about what steps to take. It would help if ur friend accompanied her mum - but u can't force her. Just by being there for ur friend u r doing something, so well done...
Reply:Plenty of good advice here.
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My friend has an eating disorder?
it is so sad how someone can just lose themselves! she needs help and she also needs food, when your 5 ft 4 you should NOT be aiming for 95lbs, waaaaaayyyyy too light! there is NOTHING to be proud of about being under weight, too many people have lost their life's that way! poor thing, she really NEEDS to go to therapy or something, i am glad that her mother is concerned about her and she is doing the right thing, it is not your fault if she refuses to eat, she needs support and help to realize what is going on.
good luck and god bless!♥
Reply:I feel bad for your friend but her mom has to send her away to one of those clinic that they have for people with eating disorders.
Reply:I think she would benefit from some inpatient help too if her therapist isn't helping her. You sound like a good friend but she isn't really opening up about things.
This center has some good info and a friend of mine got help here for bulimia:
http://www.renfrewcenter.com/
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Reply:U're obviously a really good friend and very concerned. I think ur friends mother needs to speak to the local GP and get information about what steps to take. It would help if ur friend accompanied her mum - but u can't force her. Just by being there for ur friend u r doing something, so well done...
Reply:Plenty of good advice here.
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Skin is blue in the shoulders and upper arms, feeling fine otherwise it's been 2 days?
was exposed to mold a week and a half ago and that evening felt achy and crappy headache next day but after that fine. Could this been some blood disorder? Have no previous problems or medications. Also have been lifting light weights for a week for my rotator cuff cause that often bothers otherwise feel fine? Should I wait for a few more days to go see a dr. ? Skin is also fine no rash etc. Just overall looks blue.
Skin is blue in the shoulders and upper arms, feeling fine otherwise it's been 2 days?
I think you should go to the doctor, it seem you are having circulation problems! :S
Reply:Umm...my son asked me the same thing a couple of weeks ago. He freaked out and came running to me. He wore a new shirt and the dye in the shirt dyed his skin. (Just a thought)
Reply:I think you need to see your doctor as soon as you can. Try to get in today.
Skin is blue in the shoulders and upper arms, feeling fine otherwise it's been 2 days?
I think you should go to the doctor, it seem you are having circulation problems! :S
Reply:Umm...my son asked me the same thing a couple of weeks ago. He freaked out and came running to me. He wore a new shirt and the dye in the shirt dyed his skin. (Just a thought)
Reply:I think you need to see your doctor as soon as you can. Try to get in today.
Beagle might have auto- immune disorder?
My 5 year old beagle has had off/on hot pots for the past 2 years. We have tried oatmeal and anti- itch shampoos, changing her diet to Purina LA (which is suppossed to help if she has a food allergy) and medicating the spots with anti-biotics. It seemed ok for a while, but now I noticed that some parts of her body she has gnawwed at so badly that she's breaking the skin. I desperatly want an answer to this continuing problem. We love her so much and want her to have a better quality of life, with no itching! Could this be some kind of disorder other than food allergies ? Please help.
Beagle might have auto- immune disorder?
could be inhalant allergies,, or she could be allergic to grasses etc. you should call her breeder and find out about allergy history in this line... purina is not a good food choice,,,, you want a holistic blend of dry kibble with no byproducts, no corn, no wheat.. could also be a form of mange, flea bite dermatitis etc. take your dog to vet and request a skin scraping,,, this should be able to tell you what the heck your poor pup has.. good luck..
Reply:She might just be stressed. I had a dobe who when my parents got divorced he would lick and chew his paws till they bleed, also when he went into kennels he would do the same. It just happened all of a sudden and then it became a habbit! Try distracting her with treats or to play a game. Can you think back 2years if anythink stressfulll happened? Dogs can pick up allot. Then it becomes a learnt behaviour which is hard to break.
I would check with your vet he can do bloods.
Hope this helps and i hope she gets better soon!
Best wishes Kim
Reply:It can be a few things. You should have her see a animal dermatologist.
Beagle might have auto- immune disorder?
could be inhalant allergies,, or she could be allergic to grasses etc. you should call her breeder and find out about allergy history in this line... purina is not a good food choice,,,, you want a holistic blend of dry kibble with no byproducts, no corn, no wheat.. could also be a form of mange, flea bite dermatitis etc. take your dog to vet and request a skin scraping,,, this should be able to tell you what the heck your poor pup has.. good luck..
Reply:She might just be stressed. I had a dobe who when my parents got divorced he would lick and chew his paws till they bleed, also when he went into kennels he would do the same. It just happened all of a sudden and then it became a habbit! Try distracting her with treats or to play a game. Can you think back 2years if anythink stressfulll happened? Dogs can pick up allot. Then it becomes a learnt behaviour which is hard to break.
I would check with your vet he can do bloods.
Hope this helps and i hope she gets better soon!
Best wishes Kim
Reply:It can be a few things. You should have her see a animal dermatologist.
What is social anxiety disorder?
I've often wondered if I have social anxiety disorder.
I do NOT like to talk to people I don't know, and will actually be rude so people will not talk to me.
I feel like I want to jump out of my skin when I am with a group of people.
At work, I am fine, this is just outside of work in normal social situations.
I don't know what is wrong with me, but now that I have children and don't relate well with the other parents, I can honestly look and see "hey...I may have a problem here".
Any ideas?
What is social anxiety disorder?
You get anxious when you are around people. It is social anxiety disorder. You should seek help to get medicine for it. At work you are fine because you are use to going to work and use to the people you work with....its routine. In normal social situations you feel uneasy because its different to you...it will never be the same.
Reply:Seek a counselor, internet diagnoses are impossible.
*WOW that above advise slapped a lable on you as fast as she could, then suggested medicine for something she knows nothing about. Please seek a professional.
Reply:This does sound pretty much like classic SAD. Do you also avoid eye contact? How about making phone calls or even answering the phone? Those can also be traits.
For many people, SAD affects them largely among people whose opinions of them really matter--in social situations far more than at work. They care more about what fellow students think than their professors, for instance.
It responds pretty well to self-medication--a single drink can work wonders--but that doesn't really address the underlying issues. A psychologist can help with that, as well as with deconditioning exercises which can make it easier to function. Sometimes they prescribe a mild antidepressant during that period while you learn that you can too talk to people.
Reply:I used to have major troubles with this when I was younger. Especially around a certain class or group of people.
What I found worked for me is when I had to go somewhere new. ( If possible) I'd take along someone I knew well that understood me. Especially if they knew the group or some of the people as well. or If I didnt know any of them I'd call some one on the list of people I was to meet to try to get to know them a bit and feel some sort of common grounds with them. So when I met them it wasnt as terrifying to me .
About other parents. I often met the kids first because my children knew them from school. So i kind of had an idea of what kind of home they came from.
I am the kind of parent that feels the need to know what my kids' friends are like and feel I need to meet the parents of those kids so I have some idea of what kind of people my kids associate with.
Look for one common interests you might have with one other parent. Like if your kids are small and they like a certain cartoon or show and have the figures or toys you can ask them about them. or If your kids do activities in school then you can seek out parents of others kids in those groups.
I used to run a support group here for people with the same problem as me. I found I was ok to speak if I was sitting down. but if I had to stand in front of them my palms would get all sweaty, and I'd begin to shake, I'd secretly hope they couldnt tell that I was. I still have a fear of public speaking. However I'm told that no one knows at all. It doesnt show when I'm there doing the speaking or whatever. Often we perceive ourselves as coming across to others the way we feel inside . When really it doesnt show.
so slowly broaden your spaces. by picking things you feel comfortable with. Like maybe inviting a co workers family over for dinner, or go out with the families instead. As if you know one person ( your co worker) then you have some idea what their families could be like and that person is a buffer for you while getting to know who they live with.
Also if you have a dog and can take him / her for a walk in the park etc, you can talk to people you see that also have dogs. slowly build yourself up like that. without knowing it, some of those feelings will calm down some. Then if you see those people out again you can smile at them and say a brief hello. and so on.
There are other ways I learned to fight my fears of this kind of thing. As I'm a person that likes to be around people. However I do have fears of meeting certain kinds of people. Especially if I hear things about them before I do get to meet them.
Also say a brief prayer to God before you go in. (or whatever you believe in) To help build your confidence up.opening yourself up to new people can be scarey
It is much easier to do here , because we dont have to see each other. So we don't know the emotions or reactions on their faces, or body languages only their words or comments .
Good Luck.
Reply:Get more information about some ways to overcome your fear, anxiety and phobia at my profile.
I do NOT like to talk to people I don't know, and will actually be rude so people will not talk to me.
I feel like I want to jump out of my skin when I am with a group of people.
At work, I am fine, this is just outside of work in normal social situations.
I don't know what is wrong with me, but now that I have children and don't relate well with the other parents, I can honestly look and see "hey...I may have a problem here".
Any ideas?
What is social anxiety disorder?
You get anxious when you are around people. It is social anxiety disorder. You should seek help to get medicine for it. At work you are fine because you are use to going to work and use to the people you work with....its routine. In normal social situations you feel uneasy because its different to you...it will never be the same.
Reply:Seek a counselor, internet diagnoses are impossible.
*WOW that above advise slapped a lable on you as fast as she could, then suggested medicine for something she knows nothing about. Please seek a professional.
Reply:This does sound pretty much like classic SAD. Do you also avoid eye contact? How about making phone calls or even answering the phone? Those can also be traits.
For many people, SAD affects them largely among people whose opinions of them really matter--in social situations far more than at work. They care more about what fellow students think than their professors, for instance.
It responds pretty well to self-medication--a single drink can work wonders--but that doesn't really address the underlying issues. A psychologist can help with that, as well as with deconditioning exercises which can make it easier to function. Sometimes they prescribe a mild antidepressant during that period while you learn that you can too talk to people.
Reply:I used to have major troubles with this when I was younger. Especially around a certain class or group of people.
What I found worked for me is when I had to go somewhere new. ( If possible) I'd take along someone I knew well that understood me. Especially if they knew the group or some of the people as well. or If I didnt know any of them I'd call some one on the list of people I was to meet to try to get to know them a bit and feel some sort of common grounds with them. So when I met them it wasnt as terrifying to me .
About other parents. I often met the kids first because my children knew them from school. So i kind of had an idea of what kind of home they came from.
I am the kind of parent that feels the need to know what my kids' friends are like and feel I need to meet the parents of those kids so I have some idea of what kind of people my kids associate with.
Look for one common interests you might have with one other parent. Like if your kids are small and they like a certain cartoon or show and have the figures or toys you can ask them about them. or If your kids do activities in school then you can seek out parents of others kids in those groups.
I used to run a support group here for people with the same problem as me. I found I was ok to speak if I was sitting down. but if I had to stand in front of them my palms would get all sweaty, and I'd begin to shake, I'd secretly hope they couldnt tell that I was. I still have a fear of public speaking. However I'm told that no one knows at all. It doesnt show when I'm there doing the speaking or whatever. Often we perceive ourselves as coming across to others the way we feel inside . When really it doesnt show.
so slowly broaden your spaces. by picking things you feel comfortable with. Like maybe inviting a co workers family over for dinner, or go out with the families instead. As if you know one person ( your co worker) then you have some idea what their families could be like and that person is a buffer for you while getting to know who they live with.
Also if you have a dog and can take him / her for a walk in the park etc, you can talk to people you see that also have dogs. slowly build yourself up like that. without knowing it, some of those feelings will calm down some. Then if you see those people out again you can smile at them and say a brief hello. and so on.
There are other ways I learned to fight my fears of this kind of thing. As I'm a person that likes to be around people. However I do have fears of meeting certain kinds of people. Especially if I hear things about them before I do get to meet them.
Also say a brief prayer to God before you go in. (or whatever you believe in) To help build your confidence up.opening yourself up to new people can be scarey
It is much easier to do here , because we dont have to see each other. So we don't know the emotions or reactions on their faces, or body languages only their words or comments .
Good Luck.
Reply:Get more information about some ways to overcome your fear, anxiety and phobia at my profile.
Is this an eating disorder?
I don't have anorexia or bulmia It's just that there are certain foods that I don't want to eat cause I think that I will get spotty skin or get cellulite, I don't eat chocolate and hardly eat crisps all I want to eat is fruit and veg and I don't like eating processed foods like ready meals cause they contain too much salt! but I don't think i'm fat, is this a disorder? Please help!
Is this an eating disorder?
i use to eat whatever i wanted meat, candy whatever....but i always got acne and i didnt focus that much or anything....i now eat only vegies and fruit and some fish...no acne, focus more... i have a 4.0 average in college....no its not an eating disorder..some people may call it that but, but really everybody has a different eating style.....
Dont let people put you down..be what you are
and dont let people make you believe its a disorder
Reply:It's not an eating disorder - you just want to eat healty. Brava!
Reply:no sounds like you have healthy diet .
Reply:Nope, your just what the rest of us want to be and thats controlled! well done to you! xx
Reply:u have a problem..... some foods u don't eat are essential to building amino acids and proteins. try the low sodium meals or cook them fresh if u want.
Reply:Eating disorders generally dont have anything to do with the actual food a person eat. A person with an eating disorder usually has a problem with self image and the way they see thems selfs, they use food as somethin they can control. As for you from what you wrote....you dont have a problem with self image...you eat certain foods to stay healthy...not to lose or gain weight
Reply:No, just your preference which is perfectly alright.
Reply:no. You are just conscience of what you eat. Nothing wrong with that.
Reply:you're just being careful not to get fat. nothin wrong wit that. keep it up
Reply:It sounds like healthy choices to me, but it is a complete myth that chocolate causes spots, spots and acne are caused by raging hormones being released in uncontrolled surges, acne aslo runs in families. A wee bit of choccy, now and again won't hurt you.
Reply:I PERSONALLY DON'T THINK YOU HAVE A DISORDER. BUT, YOU MAY WANT TO SEE A NUTRITIONIST TO GET A WELL BALANCED MEAL PLAN. IF YOU DO NOT LIKE PROCESSED FOOD THEN YOU SHOULD TRY ALL NATURAL FOODS WITH NO PERSERVATIVES. CONTACT YOUR LOCAL HEALTH FOOD STORE OR NUTRITIONIST FOR MORE INFORMATION. SOUNDS TO ME LIKE YOU ARE JUST A PICKY EATER. GOOD LUCK.
Reply:cor you lucky thing. I wish i had your willpower for such a healthy diet!
Reply:Hi no its self control and i like the way you are keeping your delf in tip top shape with your eating, I wish i could be more like you, the thing is i dont like veg or most friuts, You havent go an eating disorder you are just looking after yourself and its the way to do it. Keep it up !
Reply:You appear to have a very healthy diet.Have you been to your G.P,you may have an under active thyroid which can cause weight gain and difficulty in losing weight
Reply:I think in a way it is. But its NOT terrible that you like to eat friuts and veg's. Chocolate will not hurt you if used in moderation. Processed foods and ready to eat meals are NOT terrible for you either. You just have a very picky food selection and your reasons...not too much that you have a disorder, but in my opinion, I would say, SOME WHAT, sortof, you do!
Reply:No I don't think you have bulimia or anorexia. I just think that your body cannot accept certain types of foods for some reason ( I can't eat peanuts coz I throw up, get an itchy throat every time I eat them as a result I have to avoid eating products that contain peanuts and traces). I think its a good idea to talk to your doctor and see what they say. I just think you like eating healthy foods as you said fruits and veg which is brilliant, as you said too much salt is not good for you. Its really good that you are watching your diet well. I can't watch my diet like you I get tempted to eat KFC or Burger King once a while... I know its awful
Reply:Oh my god, i think you should have yourself commited! What are you doing to your body?? Depriving it of all the crap that's horrible for your body but people insist on eating anyways, what are you thinking? You're sick, really sick, you should definately see a professional about this. All kidding aside now, good for you for only wanting to put healthy things in your body, keep it up! I don't know by your question if you eat any kind of meat or not, if you don't the only thing you may want to do is ask your doctor if there are any kind of vitamins or anything you can take or eat to substitute the animal proteins you may not be getting.
Reply:No........sounds like you are eating pretty healty to me!!!
Reply:no, that sounds a very healthy attitude to food.
Reply:Don't be stupid, you're just eating healthily.
Reply:Good for you, its not an eating disorder it just means your one of the few healthy ones out there. I wish i had your taste buds, then a diet would be easy xx
Reply:sounds like your a picky eater with a weird fetish for healthy food. you know what your doing so answer your own question!!
shell flower
Is this an eating disorder?
i use to eat whatever i wanted meat, candy whatever....but i always got acne and i didnt focus that much or anything....i now eat only vegies and fruit and some fish...no acne, focus more... i have a 4.0 average in college....no its not an eating disorder..some people may call it that but, but really everybody has a different eating style.....
Dont let people put you down..be what you are
and dont let people make you believe its a disorder
Reply:It's not an eating disorder - you just want to eat healty. Brava!
Reply:no sounds like you have healthy diet .
Reply:Nope, your just what the rest of us want to be and thats controlled! well done to you! xx
Reply:u have a problem..... some foods u don't eat are essential to building amino acids and proteins. try the low sodium meals or cook them fresh if u want.
Reply:Eating disorders generally dont have anything to do with the actual food a person eat. A person with an eating disorder usually has a problem with self image and the way they see thems selfs, they use food as somethin they can control. As for you from what you wrote....you dont have a problem with self image...you eat certain foods to stay healthy...not to lose or gain weight
Reply:No, just your preference which is perfectly alright.
Reply:no. You are just conscience of what you eat. Nothing wrong with that.
Reply:you're just being careful not to get fat. nothin wrong wit that. keep it up
Reply:It sounds like healthy choices to me, but it is a complete myth that chocolate causes spots, spots and acne are caused by raging hormones being released in uncontrolled surges, acne aslo runs in families. A wee bit of choccy, now and again won't hurt you.
Reply:I PERSONALLY DON'T THINK YOU HAVE A DISORDER. BUT, YOU MAY WANT TO SEE A NUTRITIONIST TO GET A WELL BALANCED MEAL PLAN. IF YOU DO NOT LIKE PROCESSED FOOD THEN YOU SHOULD TRY ALL NATURAL FOODS WITH NO PERSERVATIVES. CONTACT YOUR LOCAL HEALTH FOOD STORE OR NUTRITIONIST FOR MORE INFORMATION. SOUNDS TO ME LIKE YOU ARE JUST A PICKY EATER. GOOD LUCK.
Reply:cor you lucky thing. I wish i had your willpower for such a healthy diet!
Reply:Hi no its self control and i like the way you are keeping your delf in tip top shape with your eating, I wish i could be more like you, the thing is i dont like veg or most friuts, You havent go an eating disorder you are just looking after yourself and its the way to do it. Keep it up !
Reply:You appear to have a very healthy diet.Have you been to your G.P,you may have an under active thyroid which can cause weight gain and difficulty in losing weight
Reply:I think in a way it is. But its NOT terrible that you like to eat friuts and veg's. Chocolate will not hurt you if used in moderation. Processed foods and ready to eat meals are NOT terrible for you either. You just have a very picky food selection and your reasons...not too much that you have a disorder, but in my opinion, I would say, SOME WHAT, sortof, you do!
Reply:No I don't think you have bulimia or anorexia. I just think that your body cannot accept certain types of foods for some reason ( I can't eat peanuts coz I throw up, get an itchy throat every time I eat them as a result I have to avoid eating products that contain peanuts and traces). I think its a good idea to talk to your doctor and see what they say. I just think you like eating healthy foods as you said fruits and veg which is brilliant, as you said too much salt is not good for you. Its really good that you are watching your diet well. I can't watch my diet like you I get tempted to eat KFC or Burger King once a while... I know its awful
Reply:Oh my god, i think you should have yourself commited! What are you doing to your body?? Depriving it of all the crap that's horrible for your body but people insist on eating anyways, what are you thinking? You're sick, really sick, you should definately see a professional about this. All kidding aside now, good for you for only wanting to put healthy things in your body, keep it up! I don't know by your question if you eat any kind of meat or not, if you don't the only thing you may want to do is ask your doctor if there are any kind of vitamins or anything you can take or eat to substitute the animal proteins you may not be getting.
Reply:No........sounds like you are eating pretty healty to me!!!
Reply:no, that sounds a very healthy attitude to food.
Reply:Don't be stupid, you're just eating healthily.
Reply:Good for you, its not an eating disorder it just means your one of the few healthy ones out there. I wish i had your taste buds, then a diet would be easy xx
Reply:sounds like your a picky eater with a weird fetish for healthy food. you know what your doing so answer your own question!!
shell flower
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